I reckon this could be interesting!! My finance feels love /hate regarding me playing PR. Loves it when she is at work, hates it when she is at home. She has threatened to smash my computer, hammer in hand, at 3am in the morning as I was still playing!!! (I speak more loudly when in a tank or jet for some strange reason!!). Generally she says I'm addicted, but I have to explain some maps go for 2hrs, and playing 3 or 4 rounds isn't a lot. She also complains that the game is my priority, as I won't answer the phone, eat, or sleep when in an intense round. I respond my saying I can't let the squad down I'm the medic or AT etc. But really, it's a bit addictive TBH.

 

I also do choose on more than one occasion to stay at home and play Pr than go out. And this really erks her.

 

I know Yak's Gf HATES the game also lol. Any other tales you fellas can share??

 

Signed,

PRA- PR anonymous!!

(Ie AA, alcoholic anonymous).

Edited August 15, 201313 yr by claudia baldwin

Were do I begin. well a lot of you may remember me as I was always up for a game of PR or other games with the Aux.I guys. what you may not know is I was married for 8 years with 2 kids hence the reason I was also afk a lot while gaming as well while doing the family things and also why my PR player would go on team killing rampage when my 6 year old son would jump on my computer while I was afk. I'll admit I'm addicted to gaming and not just PR but 80% would have been PR. The wife use to threaten to smash the computer all the time because I would rather stay at home and play PR then do anything else and I didn't see a problem with it then until one day at work I get a text message from the wife saying she wants a 6 Month break (didnt see it coming so was just a bit surprised) so I started sleeping at work only to find out from my 6 year old son that another guy was having tea with my wife and kids the day after I moved out and every night after that. That ended the 6 month break into a permanent one. Then had a break in at work which ended in the robber getting beaten up and me moving and starting a new job working 70hrs a week and driving 1600km each fortnight to have my kids for 2 days. Then having to leave them both in tears every fortnight because they don't want me to go kills me inside every time that little bit more. Knowing I will miss being their for the things that seem small like my sons first school camp this week and my daughter getting her ears pierced last week brought me to tears and almost couldn't hold myself together around friends and family because I'm the type of person that doesn't like show their emotions around others and writing something like this that others will know how I feel is not like me at all. Driving 5000km a week for work gives you a lot of time to think of the (what it's) in life. Thinking what if driving work into a tree would make it easier but I could never do that to my kids. Thinking what if PR was never made would my life have turned out different. I believe it would have been but who knows. I couldn't stop playing and was addicted to PR and other games and think of my life until it was gone. If you have kids or someone you love take a minute to think if your gaming is affecting the ones you love do something about it before its to late. ( I know I would have done things different but theirs no respawns in real life and my kids are the ones that are suffering).

Hang in there Hamster.

 

Stuff happens for a reason and stuff usually works itself out when you give it time.

 

I've been through a couple of bad bust up's in my time and can finally say at 44 yo I'm in a much happer space.

 

PM'ing you my work and mobile number if you ever need a friendly person to talk to when you're on the road and you feel yourself losing control of your emotions.

Ahhh that's heavy Hamster - sorry to hear that.

 

My wife doesn't mind PR too much. Funnily enough she has more of a problem with other types of games (eg Rome total war, Civ 5, Simcity, Skyrim etc); Anything single player that eats time she hates because I can get too absorbed, lose track of time and unintentionally ignore her. Multiplayer games like PR, Chivalry, NS 2 etc are all fine because I always get up and talk to her or have a break when rounds end or I get frustrated and quit! I also tend to be more animated because of the voice comms and interaction as opposed to being a mouse clicking zombie!

 

One thing I try avoid is prioritising the game over her or something that needs doing. I'd rather go afk quickly or quit a round than deal with the consequences. Conversely, she understands if I can't get up or reply straight away in multiplayer games. She's also happy to tell me when I'm spending too much time on "that game" so I know when to back it off.

Not quite the same situation, but I'm living in a dorm on campus now and I have a (small) pool table in my room that everyone else always comes in to use. Nowadays, if I'm not studying (uni is heating up) or drinking I'll be on PR which is mainly good because I've saved a bit of cash instead of spending it going out, but also bad because a couple of times people have come in right in the middle of an intense firefight and I either have to go AFK or semi-ignore them.

 

It's not too bad though, they usually just come in and watch or sometimes try and figure my push to talk keys so they can abuse you...

 

I guy came in 4 times the other day and asked what map I was playing now and it was the same one each time - he was utterly bamboozled.

I've got a gaming addiction ever since I got my first computer a commodore 64, then snes, ps,n64, first pc,gamecube, ps2, wii, ps3,nds,xbox360,n3ds (I've got a problem). But I think of all the games i've played PR is the most addictive and best game I've played.

Thankfully my wife goes to bed early about 9 or earlier if I'm lucky

 

My wife banned me from using a mic a first because I kept waking her up but I think she has come around as long as I'm not too loud. She does go nuts when I shout and swear at the computer when someone kills me haha. I quickly learnt that if you keep them happy by watching some tv shows together or spending a bit of quality time when the kids go to bed then that keeps them happy.

 

But I've often cursed the nights she has invited friends over when I'm desperate for a game of PR.

 

Main thing to remember is happy wife happy life.

....If you have kids or someone you love take a minute to think if your gaming is affecting the ones you love do something about it before its to late. ( I know I would have done things different but theirs no respawns in real life and my kids are the ones that are suffering).

 

Man, sorry dude. I didn't mean for the thread to bring up troubles. In all seriousness, this is good advice, because certainly when we have kids, PR will have to take a back seat.

 

Take care PistofHamster.

 

Ps- I wouldn't have like to have been that thief at your work place, man, he must have copped it.

my girl is as much of a gamer as iam so never have a problem

Hamster I just read your post and it almost brought me to tears.

 

There's not much that can be said but take care and keep your head up.

I guy came in 4 times the other day and asked what map I was playing now and it was the same one each time - he was utterly bamboozled.

Lol sounds like everyone's reaction whenever I try to explain how the game goes. Most of them get all interested/upity when I describe how you can play as Hezbola & the Taliban, or just the insurgency game mechanics.

 

Since I'm still home with the family, I get the odd look or conversation where they don't realise I'm playing, or still expect me to answer at their discretion. ESPECIALLY when I'm wearing headphones. They're getting better thankfully, but they still can't tell this game apart from all the others I've played.

 

I don't have a compulsion to play games, not anymore at least, but as an old wise gamer once told me years ago: Real life comes before games, so make sure to get to them ASAP!

Well over the 6 years and 7 months that I have been playing PR my missus has become used to me and my habit.

Well we have been together for 16 years..( 16 years! bloody hell !!!!!), and have 3 kids, 2 boys aged 9 and 10 (you may have seen Daniel in game ) and a 5 yr old daughter.

I don't and can't get home then jump straight in game anymore, have to deal with the kids and get dinner on the go most days as I usually get home first.

I do spend more time doing stuff on the forums and servers ..and alot of "networking" than I do playing PR though.

 

People may have noticed I am frequently going AFK when I am playing, with 3 kids in the house there is always something happening , or I need to do something on the Forums or TS or X fire, or Skype or another forum.

 

Wifey is very understanding but I am careful not to push my luck.

At least PR is a relatively cheap hobby, and she knows where I am and what I am doing .

 

And she has accepted the fact that I do have a kind of responsibility/position as far as the forums go, its not like I spend all my time playing.

I get "well can't someone else do it ? " alot from her if I say I need to do something before whatever it is she wants me to do... the answer is generally "No not really". :sweat:.

Even if there is someone else about with the right access to things its still quicker to do it myself most times than message/chat with others and ask them to do it.

 

Bottom line = Family First, you lot second .

I have been married for 15 years , got 4 kids, I don't play anything else but PR. my kid go to bed at 8:30, I only play after 11pm, if there is something on TV my wife can watch, as my computer is the houses music/video playing device.

 

this thread reminds me of wolffy.au he had to get a throat mic so he could talk more quietly, as his misses was going to take a hammer to his PC, when it's all happening in game you get loud

 

other thing is Hamster the harder things you go through , the stronger, better person it makes you, my oldest girl had a very rare form of cancer ( LCH In newborns and very young infants, it occurs in 1-2 per million) , it was bad , but I am a lot better person for it happening, you got to turn the negatives in to positives, now at 14 she is a pain in the ass

 

love the game even if my team is losing :grin: , I don't all ways squad up, because of the time I can spend in game may be short , plus I am a Rambo type :rambo: who know what squads are trying to do, and who loves the BigD community :cowboy:

Edited August 15, 201313 yr by Pudgeinabowl

Wow I just read my reply and it was maybe a bit heavy. Was a bad day yesterday

 

From start to finish of it id traveled about 450km

 

Their were lots of things that contributed to my situation not just PR or gaming

 

Moving 9 times in 8 years was one of them.

 

I'm doing alright just have those days.

 

Start my trials working on aircraft Monday 19th which I'm excited about.

 

Bought another toy last week I'll post a pic up in that forum were you post that stuff.

 

Still kicking life in the balls, when he can't get up I'll be back

Pist heavy but worth writing for us chin up dude.

 

I've got two kids 2 & 6, wife ALWAYS goes to bed early straight after the kids, so I play then for only a few hours, maybe before I might seed or deploy FOBs or something like that. I never play late as I know I'll regret it the next morning with the nippers.

 

I've only been gaming for five years, only ever PR after getting BF cheap, since life meant I was stuck at home alot more, we haven't had a TV for years so PR fills that evening space instead, so much so that I can't really watch a film anymore as I find it boring after the interaction you get from PR. I do try to keep the noise down though, two houses ago I had a cellar under the house which was great as noise wasn't an issue.

 

Wife is happy I've got something to do that makes me happy, and my six year old loves to watch and is itching to play, but I do worry that him watching me may make him more prone to being a computer game playing gimp teenager.

 

What worries me more is the young guys who seem to play computer and console games all the time, not wanting to sound an old fart but I was going out and having fun at that time, but was living in a big city so I guess if you're living in the boonies there isn't anything to do.

My Mr's never did mind me playing, probably because I don't have one.

Pr for me was the ultimate escape, especially after a long crap night at work

All I wanted to do was sit down and have a few rounds and then sleep.

One of the few things that could calm my nerves.

Friends would sometimes crack the ****s when I would ignore them and play pr, but when They had a game themselves they understood (obese_oner)

 

At 6 every night I'd get the call from Mum.

"James! Dinner!"

"In a minute!" Id scream back, id be locked into some intense fight or manuever.

Once a lapse on combat occurred i'd emerge from my room to refuel on

Some foodZ

"Oi mum wheres my food? I though you said dinner was ready"

" yeah i did.....1 hour ago"

Sheeeeeeeeet.

 

I get so imvolved in the game everthing else dissapears. I think a few of us have that in common and is also why this is such a tigh community, where else can you find what we have? Even though I havent played in 6 months I still fell like this is my home.

I'll be back some day. Till then!

What worries me more is the young guys who seem to play computer and console games all the time, not wanting to sound an old fart but I was going out and having fun at that time, but was living in a big city so I guess if you're living in the boonies there isn't anything to do.

 

Play with him! I used to sit on my Dad's lap when he played MechWarrior. One of the most important things I learnt from playing with my Dad/watching him play was that games are meant to be a social experience, not always just played alone

Just before I got married my wife said 'It's EVE Online or me'. I was spending a lot of time in that particularly MMO at the time.

 

Kids certainly make a mess of my gaming time nowadays (and no proper internetz ATM) but even without them I was pretty careful about keeping the time aside to spend with the wife - a difficult balancing act that many of us obviously struggle with.

 

Sometimes I like to remind her that spending $600 every few years is way cheaper than the hobby of my rev-head mates.

Im a man and I do what i want, if a girl wants me to give up gaming id look else where, of course my gf is a gamer so thats good, and uhhh yea if marry a gamer wouldnt you think they would accept you for it

I made the mistake of prioritizing PR/gaming over my friends and girlfriend many years ago (around the 0.5->0.8 era) and after realizing how detrimental it was to my life (and the relationship I lost partially because of it)... I made the conscious decision to say "Never again...! Games will always come second to life", and I'm so much happier for it.

 

I took around a year break as well, which helped me refocus and set myself on a path of enjoyment here in Japan.

 

There's nothing wrong with gaming, nor is there anything wrong with long sessions of PR, as long as you have no other commitments (friends, family, work, self-improvement) to take care of first. At that point, game away!!